Wednesday, November 10, 2010

so a birthmom, an adoptive mom, an adoptee, and an unbelievably insensitive woman are tyin a quilt......

so i'm at church tyin a quilt to donate, and i meet an adoptive mom. we're gabbin about how blessed we are to have adoption be part of our lives, goin on and on as b-moms and A-moms do when we happen to meet.
enter insensitive lady- "well it's best to have 'your own', that way they have your genes and adopted kids usually don't turn out well". (all of this is said infront of my new friend's listening daughter, by the way). she then goes on to give the evidence of a couple of adopted children who have grown up to have problems that are exclusive to those who have been adopted, y'know, like divorce and quitting church.
another woman at our quilt enters the conversation. "i'm adopted an none of that is true of me, though my siblings who are not adopted HAVE had those struggles".
i say "see, what YOU fail to understand is that this IS her own child! eternally! meaning- always was, always will be. they found eachother by inspiration and miraculous divine intervention! we are ALL brothers and sisters! so tell me, what do GENES matter?!". sike, that's only a-wish i woulda said. but i did say, "these babies go where they're meant to be".
Adopted mom responds to the height of rudeness with grace and charity.
rude lady feels dumb.
we get up and move to a kinder quilt and carry on our rejoicing.
Adoptive mom, Birthmom, and adoptee! GO TEAM!


  1. Wow, just wow. I can't believe someone actually thinks those kinds of things and then says them out loud and even worse in the situation in which she said them. Wow, just wow.

    ~Emily Morrison

  2. Now that's crazy! All members of adoption are represented at the quilt, and the one not involved with adoption tries to tell you all what adoption is! Wow!

  3. I think a lot of the world thinks that way. It's our job to educate. You are such a great example! GO TAMRA!!!! I love you sister!!! :)

  4. love it- glad to see you posting again!!!